The Birth Of Hyrum

My Second Birth, that I attended as a Doula; was for My Sister in Law , Grisel.
It was a Sunday Evening, July 22nd 2012 [Grisel's Mother and Brother had flown in from Bolivia the day before. On a Saturday.]
Sunday Evening they had sat down to eat dinner, When Grisel's contractions started. At about 5:00pm.
She had a hard time getting through dinner because contractions really picked up.
She decided to get in the bathtub for some pain relief.
Her husband (my brother) called me at 7:00 pm to let me know that she was in labor. Her contractions were 8 minutes apart at that time.
I gathered my things that I would need to help her during her labor and headed out. I live about 45 min from them.  I arrived at her home at about 8:30pm. (she wanted to labor at home for as long as possible.)
When I arrived, contractions were quite intense, and coming 1 min apart. They decided it was time to head to the hospital. we left for the hospital at about 8:45-9:00pm.
I followed them to the hospital.
we arrived at the hospital at 9:15pm.
By now Grisel was having really intense pain, and contractions one on top of the other and lasting for longer periods.
Grisel was checked at 9:30pm and was 7cm.
Grisel handled labor like a Pro! she was great! she kept calm, and breathed right through her contractions. Dallin was by her side, helping her every step of the way. Grisel's Mother, was also with her and was a great support.
At 9:58, her water broke.
At 10:10 she felt the need to push. she pushed for 8 minutes and Baby Hyrum was born at 10:18pm.
He was so cute and looked so boyish!
From start to finish, her labor was about 5 hours and 20 minutes.
I asked Grisel what helped in this labor and she said that she liked the bath, standing, she liked the Nausea spray that I brought, and when I would push on the small of her back. She also liked that I kept her focused on her breathing.
It was a great experience and I am thankful Grisel and Dallin let me be apart of it.

My first experience as a Doula

In March I had my first birth.  It was a week after I completed my Doula training.
I had spoken to Heather (the mom to be) once over the phone before she went into Labor. I didn't meet her until 4:00am the morning she went into Labor.
It was a great experience helping her. It was her first baby, and she did a Wonderful job in having the Natural birth she was hoping for.
I am so glad she trusted me to help her with her birth.

This is Heather's Testimonial of her experience with me as her Doula:

"It was a happy accident that Kaycee became my doula, and I couldn’t have been luckier! If you’re fortunate enough to choose Kaycee to be your doula, you will not be disappointed. She is amazing. Her support made all the difference during my labor. I hate to imagine what could have happened if she wasn’t involved. Truthfully, I had never considered having a doula before. I didn’t understand how important they are. My friend Ashlie, Kaycee’s cousin, was training to become a doula. Kaycee and Ashlie were going through the doula training together. So this amazing opportunity to have not one, but two doulas at my labor dropped into my lap. They were quite a team! We met before labor and talked about what I wanted. They made an effort to educate me, without making me feel pressured to do things I wasn’t comfortable with. I knew they would support me, no matter my preferences. Personally, I wanted an unmedicated birth at the hospital. If you want pain relief, do not let that deter you from having doula! Every laboring woman deserves to be supported and pampered. That’s what doulas are for. And I assure you, Kaycee would support and pamper you no matter the circumstances."

           " The day finally came when I went into labor. Kaycee and Ashlie came over to my home in the middle of the night prepared and excited. While the contractions were mild, we practiced different relaxation techniques and experimented with massage and positions that were most comfortable for me. This was so very valuable! I didn’t know exactly what would help with my contractions. Because we found out early in labor, Kaycee and Ashlie immediately knew what to do to help when contractions were intense and I couldn’t communicate what I needed to her. They were so intuitive that the later part of labor, I didn’t even know what I needed, but they knew. Kaycee has the most reassuring and calming touch! She’s communicative without having to say anything. There’s a lot to process during labor. If someone would tell me to relax during a contraction, first I’d have to concentrate hard just to understand what they were saying and then forcibly try to quiet my body and relax. With Kaycee’s help, I was able skip all those steps. Instead of thinking about how to relax, my body just relaxed with her touch. She was constantly by my side for 17 long hours of labor. It was physically demanding for me, yes, but also for Kaycee! The whole time she were either massaging, applying counter-pressure, or using relaxation techniques to help me get through the pain. I can imagine how arduous that work must be, but looking at Kaycee I know she loves it. She would do anything to help me achieve an amazing experience. And it was an amazing experience! Despite the pain and my personal doubts about natural labor, my wonderful birth team helped me through it. I’m so happy! I’m so grateful for Kaycee’s hard work! Not only did I enjoy becoming a mother with the birth of my son, but I also enjoyed my labor. Labor may not always go as planned, in fact it rarely does. All the more reason to have Kaycee as your doula. She’s your support system for whatever comes your way. And you deserve it."

You CAN do it!

I read this article and wanted to share part of it, because I agree with what it says. It fit my last birth to a "T" I had to prepare, and natural birth is very doable if you do prepare.


"In a normal, straightforward labor, if you are prepared mentally, you can give birth without pain meds. Labor is really doable. It is not “the worst pain in the world” for most people.  Is it intense? Sure. Is it hard work? Absolutely.  But it is manageable. You have a contraction for a minute and then you get a break. You get another contraction for a minute and then you get a break. During those breaks you feel great. The other thing that helps is your body’s hormonal helpers: the hormonal cascade involved in an unmedicated birth is truly amazing.  The key here is preparation. In learning any new task or training for a job or an athletic event you need to learn what to do and prepare your mind and body for the tasks at hand. Ina May talks about how women instinctually know how to give birth and I do believe this. I also know that many women have a hard time tapping into that instinctual knowledge and are filled with fear. So before birth, prepare your brain. Deal with your fear, choose your provider and your setting wisely, surround yourself with people who support you, and then go ahead and have your unmedicated birth. It is worth it."

Doula's can help women who plan on Epidurals

One common misconception about doulas is that they are only for women who plan on having a drug-free childbirth.

Doulas are for all women, even those who are think that they might want to use epidural medication during labor.

A doula can help you receive accurate  information about epidurals before labor
Although they are generally very effective forms of pain relief during labor, epidurals are not without risks or potential negative side effects. They can lead to anything from a drop in the mother’s blood pressure to fetal distress to an increased risk of forceps and vacuum delivery.
A doula can help to explain these risks to you during a prenatal meeting so that you can make as informed a decision as possible about your birth choices. Just think–most of us don’t even want to take an over-the-counter pill without knowing its potential side effects before we take it. The same goes for an epidural!

A doula can help you to wait as long as possible before getting an epidural
Waiting as long as possible to receive an epidural can help to minimize some of the epidural risks, such as fetal malpositioning or slowing of labor progress. The physical and emotional comfort measures that a doula offers can help you to cope with contractions until you do want an epidural. And you might even find that you are coping well enough to forego the epidural and the potential negative side effects that accompany it!
And even if you are completely set on getting an epidural as soon as possible, it is very unlikely that you will be able to receive an epidural as soon as you walk into the door of the hospital! Most women have to wait–some even up to a few hours–in between requesting an epidural and actually receiving one. A doula can help you to cope with your contractions during that “waiting period.”

A Doula will remain non-judgmental about your choice to receive epidural during labor
  All women are strong–strong enough to cope with the pain of labor, but also strong enough to choose for themselves (and not under pressure of the hospital staff or friends and family members) when they would prefer to use pain medication during labor.

A doula can help you to change positions during your labor
Even though epidurals greatly limit a woman’s mobility, this doesn’t mean that women must lie completely still on their backs when they are using an epidural. In fact, it is important for women to stay as mobile as possible, even while using an epidural!
Turning from side to side every twenty to thirty minutes, sitting up (with the help of someone else), or simply rotating between side-lying and sitting can help to prevent a common side effect of epidurals–namely, fetal malpositioning, which can lead to slowed labor progress and, often, cesarean section. A doula can help you to change positions–or even just to remind you to change positions–so that you can avoid these potential side effects.


Some women find that after they receive an epidural, the hospital staff and others around them almost “forget” as if they exist anymore. The focus seems to turn solely toward the fetal monitor, the blood pressure cuff, and the IV fluids and/or medication–but not toward the woman who is still laboring.
While a doula does not play as active of a role after a mother receives an epidural, her attention is still always turned toward the laboring woman. Whether she is reminding and/or assisting you in changing positions, “tucking you in” so that you can sleep, reminding you to ask questions about recommended interventions, or simply continuing supporting you emotionally, you are always her primary focus!


 

I am so excited to start my journey as a birth doula!
I just completed training as a doula about a week ago, and I am now in the process of becoming certified.  I loved the class, and can't wait to get out and start helping moms!